It'll grow back

When Ali was little and her hair was long with bangs, I was her stylist. It was too crazy curly to comb when dry, so I only combed it wet, and when it got a little too out of control, I'd whack a bit off the ends and we were good to go.

No joke. Her hair is glorious in color, thickness, body and curl. I'm certain that it's because she's tired of people complimenting her, that she went asymmetrical in high school, whacking it really short on one side and leaving it longish (but way shorter than she'd had it) on the other.

It's a cute cut. When it's maintained.
Remember that Ali is the girl who in elementary school Febrezed herself rather than showering when I was on a work trip. I contributed to her lack of primness by pulling her tangles into a ponytail most days, and she hasn't really changed much even with the cute cut.

At Purdue, when her shagginess got the best of her, she had a friend cut it in the dorm bathroom.

"It's fine," she said.

When I picked her up for a quick weekend visit, she'd had another dorm cut. Once home, she disappeared into the bathroom to "fix" what my expression had apparently deemed broken.

"Uh, you have a bald spot," I reported.

"I'll wear a hat," she said.

Fast-forward to today. "Mom, my hair is a mess. Feel the ends. I have split ends. Will you cut my hair."

I looked at her. "Seriously?"

"Feel this," she insisted.

I promised only that I wouldn't give her a bald spot. As I concentrated and listened to her telling me not to cut, it too short, just to get rid of the ends and "Don't cut my ear!"  "Don't cut my neck!"

"Have I cut you?" I finally demanded.

"Not this time, but before," she said.

I haven't cut her hair since she was in high school, and I only once cut her finger while clipping her claws back. She carries a long grudge.

I don't have an "after" picture because she insisted on letting it air dry and since dinner cleanup (when it was still damp) has been ensconced in her room playing Dungeons & Dragons online with her friends. She's been laughing. 'Course, she doesn't have a mirror in her room.

But, hey. It'll grow back....

In other news, after two weeks in the basement getting over a cold that it seems like everyone and their brother in Indianapolis has had, I emerged healthy and ready for sunlight this weekend. I've bleached everything I touched, washed everything, including the family room couch and throw pillows and feel like we could safely have surgery down there.

I even made dinner Saturday night, cleaned the shed and picked up sticks in the yard. I'd put 5,000 steps on the desk cycle that came home with us from Maine when Jeff asked if I wanted to go on a walk. It was glorious. Today, I cleaned our shed and picked up sticks from the yard. My back hurts, but I'm back, baby.

My back porch office is ready for me as soon as it stays warm. Ali and Jeff had left a lot of her dorm stuff in there, but most of it's in the basement as she's home until fall now. One item I kept is a storage unit that she's decorated with stickers ala back when I was a news reporter and slapped political stickers all over a filing cabinet I still have. It's down in the basement. She told me it had inspired her to follow suit. So that was fun.

The first week of the past two weekends was our planned but corona-virused "Spring Break." Frankly, I don't know what they did that week other than bring me meals and wave from the doorways. Last week, I mostly worked and they found places to do their own school and office work.

Tomorrow dawns with three people needing internet access and the ability to focus on our various work. I plan to have the Captain at his desk in the basement, me on the back porch and Ali at the dining room table. The temperature may force me inside, but we'll figure it out.

At one point last week, Ali said Jeff and I were on separate conference calls on separate floors and "It was so loud!"

We've designated the downstairs guest room as the conference call/quiet space. If that doesn't work, we have my bedroom, I suppose. It's the farthest from the planned work spaces.

Based on my friends' experience with small children during this shelter-in-place time, I'm grateful Alison is in college and dedicated to her studies. I don't know what I'd do with multiple elementary or high schoolers. My hat is off to those folks who are keeping it all together.

To your left is Alison's math work -- two of seven problems she had to solve. Let me just say this: I cannot help her with her schoolwork.

She's still dedicated to research chemistry. I like to think she'll be one of the ones saving us from repeat situations such as we find ourselves in today.

Hope you're doing well in your new normal. And hey, welcome to my work from home world. It's harder with the whole family around, and all the uncertainty of how long this will go on.

We'll get through it together. There are so many examples of people reaching out to do what they can for each other these days. If you're in need, I hope you find help. If you can help, I hope you will. Most of all, I hope we come out of this giving each other the benefit of the doubt and delivering well on that trust.

Good luck this week and the weeks ahead until someone's found a way to overcome this virus. Stay safe. Keep in touch. But from a distance.

Like Ali's hair, we'll all bounce back from this.

💗😀💓

One Quarantined; One Returned

Alison's outrage - or embarrassment - at me calling her RA to check if she was dead didn't last long. Or perhaps it sparked a memory of how good it can be here at Chez Reed because she sent the Captain and me a text last week asking if it was OK if she came home for a weekend visit.

As if she has to ask.

I, of course, immediately answered in the affirmative. Jeff was heading to Maine to spend some time with his father, and I suspected he'd tipped her off that I'd be home and lonely, but they both claim there was no conspiracy.

I wouldn't have cared if they had conspired. I picked her up Friday afternoon as soon as I possibly could.  We called Maine on the way home and Jeff, Jen, Peter, David and James passed the phone around while waiting for their food at the Muddy Rudder.

(Side note: Jeff's dad, Gary, has had a bit of a setback and has been in the hospital and rehab over the last several days. He may have a new or re-inflamed old back injury, and we're hoping he's on the mend after meds were evaluated and treatment given. It didn't make sense for both of us to visit, so Jeff made the trip solo and is glad he did, though he came home sick and has been sleeping in the basement ever since. It's not COVID-19 but apparently he's full of some colorful gunk. I call to him from the stairs on occasion but so far he's been tending mostly to his own self, at his own insistence. Not that I want any of whatever he's got.)

Back to Ali and me on Friday: She regaled me with campus life stories and caught me up on what was happening with her various friends. I gave her the low-down from Maine and Indy. We made a Costco run before we got home. We had just enough room in the back of the Subaru for all our goodies and her laundry.

Once home, we took up our station on the couch with a bag of Taco Bell and more mini tacos to come and found a stash of Chrisley Knows Best on the DVR listing. We followed that up with G.H. Cretors popcorn -- which I'd bought only with her agreement to take whatever we didn't finish back to Purdue with her. I swear that stuff is addictive. the only way not to eat the whole bag is to give it away.

We stayed on the couch until midnight or so watching TV, munching on bad food and comparing whatever we found on our mobile devices when we weren't shouting back at the Chrisleys for their various - and many - crazy antics. We stumbled off to our respective beds until about 3 a.m. when a nightmare woke her up and she ended up with me.

I did not pray or ask in anyway for her to recreate the times when she was little and Jeff was away, but I didn't protest. I woke up way earlier than her and had most of my work done and bacon ready when she emerged.

I had looked askance at her hair when I first laid eyes on her, but I didn't want to be that Mom, so I didn't address the fact that her hair was looking a little, well, off. "Did you have that girl cut your hair in the bathroom again?" I may have asked.

"No," she said. "I did it myself."

"Ah," I said.

The American Hair Stylist Academy does
NOT endorse these as a tool.

She protested a little bit about my honesty. I said it wasn't that bad and beside that it was her hair and it would grow back.

Saturday morning, she comes out of her bathroom and I was a bit more honest. She'd used a pair of scissors that I'm sure we bought for her in her Kindergarten days.  I may have raised my eyebrows.

"What?! You said it needed work," she said.

I pointed out the near-bald spot she'd created. That's when she showed me the scissors she'd used.

"It'll grow back," I assured her as she went searching for a hat. We debated going to a walk-in hair salon but we decided to let it grow a little bit first because the only way to really address it is to buzz most of it.

"Look!" she said. "All I have to do it pull this long part over it. You can't even see it."

She may be the first 18-year-old sporting a comb-over. But, characteristically, she's not overly worried about it. She did wear a hat every time we went out, though.

We spent part of Saturday at a super fun event organized by my friend Betty Cockrum and attended by Karin Ogden, Carey Hamilton, Catherine O'Conner and a bunch of other fun ladies.

Betty had collected a bunch of jewelry that was either broken, out of favor or just extra and worked with the Indianapolis Art Center to create an event where you brought some jewelry and left with some other jewelry. You could break stuff apart, repair things or create new. There were also bagels and mimosas. It was a lot of fun.

I'm hoping to do another event or something similar and highly recommend the place for fun group gatherings. Karin, Carey and I think it would be a fun Book Club venue.

Ali and her friend Nikki went to an anime movie while I went back home to laundry and work. We had to make a Kroger/Meijer run to get ingredients for poutine, and Ali made dinner: french fries drenched in gravy and cheese curds. I did make her eat a pepper while I had a salad.

But mostly it was cheese and gravy. We took a picture and sent it to Jeff, who was at the mercy of airport food. Because we love him.

We got him around 9:30 p.m., and he was just at the beginning of the illness that has him making noises I can hear with a floor between us.

We returned her by 2 p.m. so she could get ready for her week and get re-settled.

It was a perfect visit. Except for the Captain's sickness, of course.

We'll get her back in a couple of weeks. Our Spring Break location is still TBD. I don't really care where we end up. I may have to eat zero-point soup for a week, but it'll be worth it.